How to Be Sick A Buddhist Inspired Guide for the

How to Be Sick A Buddhist Inspired Guide for the

How to Be Sick A Buddhist Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers [KINDLE] ❁ How to Be Sick A Buddhist Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers By Toni Bernhard – This life affirming instructive and thoroughly inspiring book is a must read for anyone who is or who might one day be sick And it can also be the perfect gift of guidance encouragement and uplifting This life affirming instructive and Be Sick MOBI · thoroughly inspiring book is a must read for anyone who is or who might one day be sick And it can also be How to Epub / the perfect gift of guidance encouragement and uplifting inspiration to family friends and loved ones struggling with the many terrifying or disheartening life changes that come so close on to Be Sick PDF/EPUB » the heels of a diagnosis of a chronic condition or even a life threatening illnessThe author who became ill while a university law professor in the prime of her to Be Sick A Buddhist PDF or career tells the reader how she got sick and to her and her partner's bewilderment stayed that way Toni had been a longtime meditator going on long meditation retreats and spending many hours rigorously practicing but soon discovered that she simply could no longer engage in those difficult and taxing forms She had to learn ways to make being sick the heart of her spiritual practice and through truly learning how to be sick she learned how even with many physical and energetic limitations to live a life of euanimity compassion and joy Whether we ourselves are sick now or not we can learn these vital arts of living well from How to Be Sick.

10 thoughts on “How to Be Sick A Buddhist Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers

  1. Wilhelmina Jenkins Wilhelmina Jenkins says:

    I have lived with chronic illness for the past 27 years and I have read lots of books about how to life a healthy life with an unhealthy body This book would now be my top recommendation for anyone who has a chronic illness or who cares for someone who does Author Toni Bernhard has Chronic Fatigue Syndrome as do I and she doesn't sugarcoat how severe an illness this is Her life was turned upside down but she shares in this book the spiritual practices she uses to live her life as fully as possible The techniues she explains come from Buddhism but they can be used by anyone I am a mainstream Protestant no problem These techniues do not cure illness but they can change the way that one thinks about illness eliminating the thought patterns and attitudes that stand in the way of living a spiritually healthy life even with physical limitations There is even a guide at the end of the book that reviews and summarizes the practices she presents in the textChanging the way that one thinks about illness is not easy But by emphasizing such practices as compassion loving kindness toward oneself and others sympathetic joy and euanimity Bernhard shows us that it is possible to have a sick body but a healthy spirit I know that I will turn to this book often and I hope that many others will also

  2. Chrissie Chrissie says:

    I have been told you don't have to know how to meditate or even be attracted to Buddhist beliefs to be helped by this book Anyone with a chronic illnes or who cares for another with a chronic illness should consider this book This is a book for those people who have an illness that is not going to go away I am very reluctant to read self help books I just get out a piece of paper and pen and think while I jot down my thoughts A dear friend suggested this to me She said read a bit and see what you think That is what I did It drew me in and I wanted to continue So this is what I am reading This book is the first that has shown me the value of Buddhist beliefs I had always seen Buddhism as excessively negative Unfortunately the prime focus of Buddhism is that life is filled with suffering Buddhism also says that suffering can come to an end Perhaps just momentarily but there are numerous ways to end suffering if we just know how And this book shows how The book in a very simple manner explains Buddhist thoughts but importantly it shows you how to achieve peace How to stop yourself from worrying all the time How to lessen stress These are phenomena that everyone encounters daily The book is aimed at those who are chronically ill because such people simply worry so much they feel they are about to drown but absolutely anyone will benefit from this book I have instinctively disliked the thought that desire was bad Buddhism stresses that it is our desire that makes us suffer In reality it is when we desire what we cannot achieve that desire becomes negative Let me just say that this book explains this so much better than I can No other book I have ever read about Buddhism has made it all so simple and clear And it is not negative at all And you smile when you read the book Buddhists make list and number everything Four Noble Truths and the Eight Fold Path to FreedomLiberation and the Three Marks of Existence The Buddhists can count It does make you smile What is best about thi book forget all the other stuff you intellectually learn is that it shows you how to enjoy life Listen to what I am saying Is that a negative message? Indeed it is not There is nothing negative at all about the Buddhist teachings The book is filled with ideas of how you can get out of life when you are worried and stressed and upset You do not need to be chronically ill to get a lot from this book If you are chronically ill it is a life ring that helps keep you afloat It is however up to you to take the routines described in the book and use them The book is so simple Through practicesroutines it shows you what you can do I will give you one example that is found in this book Close your eyes and think of something in your past that makes you unhappy perhaps an event where you wish you had behaved differently Pick something that troubles you in your past Then open your eyes and look ilmmediately at your cat or your garden or your dog or whatever you do love Something that makes you spontaneously happy Don't you just feel the worry drop off you? You dropped it that worry If you practice this in other situations you will learn and teach your body how to drop it on command This book is filled with little things that you can do Some worked for me Others didn't Some I simply didn't know what they were talking about but I am just at the beginning This is a little book to practice with OK maybe borrow it from the library the first time you read it but if you do not have it at home you will forget what to do This book is written in such a way that you will understand what you must practice YOU do them as much as YOU need them You choose those routines that work for you This book refers to many other Zen and Buddhist books The author gives examples that another particular bookauthor suggests In this way you know which books maybe you want to try next For me there is so much in this little book that I need nothing not yet at least The magic of this book is that theses teeny exercises worked immediatley She has a knack for explaining them She is herself chronically ill She has had to use these routines She know what works and doesn't work I think that is why she explains the routines so well And the routines have fun little names so they are easy to remember I have had diabetes for 50 years That is a long time In the last year I have had increasing problems with my vision This has really messed up my emotions This book was a life ring thrown to me It is not going to improve my diabetes or my vision but it will help lighten the emotional burden Many of the ideas presented were in fact not new but the book somehow has made these philosophical beliefs that I have always held a means by which I can fight worry and stress and fearPS The book is not perfect I would sometimes think Hey that is wrong Here is a counter example But it helps so much so that it is worth five stars When will I ever agree with everything I read?

  3. Shelley Shelley says:

    I was unsure about this book initially because of its title I found myself thinking I don't want to know how to be sick I want to figure out how to get well However after reading it the only thing I did not care for about the entire book was its title and it has even grown on me The book is Buddhist inspired I found great help from it in spite of having essentially no knowledge about Buddhism I plan on looking up some of the references to learn in fact Reading this book if you are chronically ill is like opening a treasured box of chocolates Each one has a new flavor and builds on the experience of the entire box The book is packed with pearls about dealing with chronic illness which also build upon themselves and lace the entire book with flavor of life and living in spite of the suffering that comes with chronic illness At times I even cried which is rare for me because I identify with the journey of the author and her stories Toni reminds us that all people suffer and she frankly discusses the issues that come up with doctors friends family and self while dealing with chronic illness and then presents some solutions for not allowing those issues add to our suffering There is a summary key in the back which also lists specific issues and practices which can be helpful when the issues come up I felt like a dear friend was writing to me and I could completely relate with the mirror stories that have happened in my own life and even mirror lessonsthough I am not BuddhistI would recommend this book to anyone dealing with chronic illness or who is a caregiver for someone with chronic illness It is a book I will reread which is also rare for me It is also a book that I will likely purchase for other friends coping with chronic illness

  4. Erin Erin says:

    Most of the problems I had with this book were nicely put into a paragraph in the last few pages so I can just uote it hereNow on a day when I start to sink into that Why me? mood I turn it into Why not me? I too have health insurance I too did not suffer financially when I had to stop working other than having to tighten out budget I too have the best of caregiversI had high hopes going into this and that is perhaps my fault but this is of the same from the same people who have been talking about CFS the most publicly since forever and makes me feel even isolated than when I started reading this Despite all the Buddhist inspired wisdom of this book I feel like the takeaway is that if you already lived a fulfilling life and had a career and a family before getting sick if you have financially security and a lot of other resources at your disposal your life might not be unrecoverably horrible but if not there's not a whole lot out there for you As such I'll take away a few good ideas from this but am left wanting in the how and why of a lot of the things involved in living a sometimes okay life which is really all Bernhard is selling as the result of guideI did find that Bernhard's descriptions of what it's like to live with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome accurate and reading something by someone with CFS is something I didn't realize I was as starved for as I was It's definitely a too diverse syndrome that presents itself pretty differently but she touched upon or less all of the universal symptoms in a way that was both accurate and expressive She also mentioned pretty much all the other things that come along with such a devastating illness and how it impacts those around the one who is ill So for that and for what she wanted this book to be I give it 2 12 3 stars But really I am kind of bummed out about my life than I was before I read it which ouch is not greattl;dr rich middle aged white Buddhist gets sick and finds a way to still be a rich middle aged white Buddhist not terribly helpful for those in other situations but not useless either

  5. Orchid Orchid says:

    It’s easy to look back and see what a mistake it was to continue working while sick—it probably worsened my condition—but many people who have contracted a chronic illness have done the same First there’s the financial need to keep working Second there’s the utter disbelief that this is happening to you reinforced by people telling you that you look just fine—people who don’t see you collapse on the bed as soon as you get homePart of the reality of chronic debilitating illness is continually trying to figure out why you are so sick—and never getting a definitive answerIronically people may think you’re giving up when in fact you are simply giving in to the reality of your new lifeI'm only on chapter 3 but already this book is resonating very deeply with me despite my illness being illness lite compared to what the author has gone through I'm hoping this book will help me mentally as it can be very trying to get my hopes up and get them dashed again Need to gurd my loins here

  6. Deanie Deanie says:

    Living with chronic illness is not for sissies and there is not a lot of resources that help you deal with anything beyond the actual physical condition Most people think in terms of varying degrees of good health and deathvery few consider the limbo of ill health or living indefinitely with a terminal illness Friends desert you life as you knew it ceases your activities are limited you can no longer count on your body to perform on a daily basis no one allows conversation about your condition your independence is non existent etc This book addresses how to survive all of these changes in a way that you can handle without the assistance of someone else It was extremely helpful

  7. Jody Jody says:

    This is probably the most important book I've ever read For anyone who has a chronic illness or takes care of someone who has a chronic illness I can't imagine a better book I keep it near me often have it both on my Kindle and in print form so that I can mark the passages that resonate with me William has read parts of the book also and found that it not only affirms things we have both known but sometimes forget when my flare ups are at their worst as well as new ways to cope and look at the world It especially helped me this holiday season when I was not able to be part of several parties wfriends familyEven though neither of us are religious This Buddhist inpired book along wthe wonderful computeripodetc friendly yoga meditations that I buy on my yoga teachers web site wwwyeslifecoachcompanioncom have made terrible days in tollerable days I highly reccomend this book to everyone Toni Bernhard is wonderful and the struggle of her illness makes the fact that she has written this book even of a feat

  8. Michelle Michelle says:

    An important book for anyone with chronic illness but unfortunately not uite as applicable to me as I had hopedFull review

  9. Sara Sara says:

    My partner is uite impaired by a chronic condition about which the medical community knows little The whole situation creates problems I really wouldn't have understood if I was simply watching a friend go through it Do we try and talk about his condition to friends to help them understand what's going on? Or do we keep our mouths shut because let's face it listening to people talk about their health problems is deadly boring and if we had a choice we would prefer to talk about something else? Do we try and make social plans when we know 3 out of 4 times my partner will have to cancel on them? But then again that fourth time he has a great deal of fun Do we try every hare brained remedy that comes up on the internet magnets earth friendly detergent cultivating your gut flora in the hopes that something will help him or do we try and adjust our lives to his present impairment and avoid the soul crushing exhaustion that comes from chasing after every tiny promise of a cure? How do we tactfully decline medical advice from well meaning friends who don't have the slightest idea what they are talking about?This isn't a book with answers to any of those things at all Instead it's a book that takes as its premise a reader in an irreducibly difficult situation It then tries to communicate some ways that such a reader might cultivate compassion toward himself and toward the world around him even when his difficulties can't be solved or magically dispersed And I'd say for that reason it's honest and it works The author sticks closely to talking about herself her own situation reactions and complicated feelings This has the drawback as other reviewers have pointed out of perhaps making readers in complicated situations those with less money those with small children feel a bit alienated At the same time it keeps her from falling into the trap of simply telling people what to do She says several times this is what works for me Maybe you can adapt some of it to your situation but don't push what doesn't work The writing style is VERY clear and the bulk of the book is anecdotal so it would not be hard for people with brain fog to follow a little bit at a time And I can't get away from the feeling that this is a very very very smart bookHOWEVER this might also not be a book for everyone grappling with a chronic illness There were times when simply reading about her experiences of isolation and fatigue made me feel very hopeless about our own situation She places the emphasis of the book on dealing with one's current situation which may feel very disheartening to people who are still actively trying to seek a cure for themselves There isn't anything in the book that advises ill people NOT to seek cures it's just that the book's main focus may not reflect the we are going to overcome this no matter what mindset you might have about your illness right nowI certainly don't have the compassion that the author has sought to cultivate within herself At times while reading the book I kept thinking I don't know if I'm ready to be that good hearted I don't know if I'm ready to be that forgiving Can't I just be angry and impatient a little while longer? But I suspect if I am going to survive this current difficulty and not turn into a bitter person who likes no one and never has fun I will probably need to bit by bit inch closer to the advice in this book If you give this book a try don't read it as if you were going to take all her advice on board instantly just browse it as information and take it from there

  10. Julie Markham Julie Markham says:

    My dear friend Bev sent me this book thank you Bev I am not a Buddhist but I didn't feel that I needed to be in order to grasp the main points and gain insight from all of the lessons within I think this book is perfect for all who are chronically ill or care givers of the chronically ill looking for a guide on how to better navigate and cope with the mental side of being ill I know for me being chronically ill there is an overwhelming feeling of helplessness knowing you can't change the physical but Bernhard shows through a series of simple practices that a change in perspective can lead you right out of that negative space mentally One of my favorites is this affirmation There is sickness here but I am not sick Very empowering I will refer to this book again and again

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