Cocaine's Son: A Memoir MOBI Þ Cocaine's Son: Epub /

Cocaine's Son: A Memoir MOBI Þ Cocaine's Son: Epub /

Cocaine's Son: A Memoir [Reading] ➶ Cocaine's Son: A Memoir By Dave Itzkoff – With sharp wit self deprecating humor and penetrating honesty New York Times journalist Dave Itzkoff turns a keen eye on his life with the mysterious maddening much loved man of whom he writes “for With sharp wit self deprecating humor and penetrating honesty New York Times journalist Dave Itzkoff turns a keen eye on his life with the mysterious maddening much loved man of whom he writes “for the first eight years of my life I seem to have believed he was the product of my imagination” Itzkoff’s father was the man who lumbered home at night and spent hours murmuring to his small son about his dreams Cocaine's Son: Epub / and hopes for the boy’s future and the fears and failures of his own past He was the hard nosed New York fur merchant with an unexpectedly emotional soul; a purveyor of well worn anecdotes and bittersweet life lessons; a trusted ally in childhood revolts against motherly discipline and Hebrew school drudgery; a friend advisor and confidant He was also a junkie In Cocaine’s Son Itzkoff chronicles his coming of age in the disjointed shadow of his father’s double life—struggling to reconcile his love for the garrulous protector and provider and his loathing for the pitiful addict Through his adolescent and teen years Itzkoff is haunted by the spectacle of his father’s drug fueled depressions and disappearances In college Itzkoff plunges into his own seemingly fated bout with substance abuse And later an emotional therapy session ends in the intense certainty that he will never overcome the same demons that have driven the older man But when his father finally gets clean a long “morning after” begins for them both And on a road trip across the country and back into memory in search of clues and revelations together they discover that there may be binding them than ever separated themUnsparing and heartbreaking mordantly funny and powerfully felt Cocaine’s Son clears a place for Dave Itzkoff in the forefront of contemporary memoirists.

10 thoughts on “Cocaine's Son: A Memoir

  1. Michelle Michelle says:

    Um alright I am not really sure how to review this book Allegedly it’s about a boy “coming of age” under the specter of his father’s cocaine addiction First of all he’s in college by page 44 so it’s not really a childhood story Also for the first half of the book you could replace “getting high” with “working” and not have to change anything else Kid has charismatic and often absent father welcome to the 1970s1980s Where was the grit? The horrible life changing moments? There were none The biggest story about his childhood involved getting out of Hebrew school and his father was only tangentially involved This is really a memoir of a random dude with a tense relationship with his father I don’t know maybe it’s a credit to his mother for keeping things semi functioning around the household And this is no cautionary tale Apparently you can have a long marriage and highly successful self made business and still be a major cokehead Go figure Once again a memoir sold a certain way in reviews that was completely different in execution

  2. Rick Rick says:

    I so wanted to like this book After all I'm a big fan of stories of recovery and redemption and one of my guilty TV pleasures is the AE show INTERVENTION But the book was a disappointment from the very beginning For a topic so freighted with the potential for drama a childhood shadowed by the specter of addiction this was curiously bland The writing although it was competent clear and simple was also colorless and flat The author seemed to ramble and never develop themes that might have become interesting eg he mentions becoming kind of obsessed with counting syllables but never does anything with the idea The book seemed to go on and on in a voice I would say could be best described as a monotonous drone What did the author want me to feel? The worst thing about Cocaine's Son is that I never felt any kind of sympathy for the characters not because they were not worthy but because the author never gave me any reason to

  3. Cindy Cindy says:

    I was willing to play along with the author's hyperbolic memoir until the anedote about how installing a ceiling fan with his father dismantled their relationship and all the progress they had made in counseling Oh it took an extra day to install the fan after hiring someone off craigslist There were ladders in his apartment all day His dad said whoost too many times The horrors Hopefully the author grows up by the end of his story but I decided there are many books I'd rather read instead

  4. Arwen Zhang Arwen Zhang says:

    Yeah I'm not sure what I'd say about the book It was interesting to say the least The beginning was okay but then the middle and the end was a whole mess that I did not understand one bit There was a lot happening and once I finished I literally didn't understand one thing

  5. Rei Avocado Rei Avocado says:

    memoirs are my favorite genre of literature especially ones about children with difficult relationships with their parents yet i found this one difficult to read for a variety of reasonsitzkoffs prose is engaging but a bit of a slog at times he works for the new york times and is princeton educated no i am NOT jealous i have only wanted to attend princeton since i could read and by god does he want you to know it i think a lot of the really powerful moments in the book border on trite only because of his writing style and its a real shame finding your father in a crackhouse covered in blood and mucus and filth should have been distressing than it was but it somehow wasnt at the same time i think itzkoff wanted to cover up the horror of certain scenes and it worked but to the books detrimentthere is just something slightly offputting about how itzkoff frames himself too memoir writers tend to be remarkably unreliable nic sheff's tweak growing up on methamphetamines is a great example of this; his father ended up writing a book telling his own side of the ordeal which i havent actually read yet but perhaps ill get to this year memoirs are not LIES they are simply recollections of a persons life or specifically a moment or moments thereof and everyone has a warped view of themselves in their minds in this case i really did not like how itzkoff comes off as the reliable son who was always fed up by his fathers drug habit and bizarre behaviors also his own flaws arent that interesting to me a princeton educated nyt writer from a wealthy background who had a hard time getting a date? who finds it hard to deal with his difficult father? oh my goodness how compellingi dont mean to be snide there is a lot to enjoy about this book but there is also a lot of bullshit itzkoff himself has a typical liberal view on race and is aware of his own class privilege but i cant help feel that its still a little condescending likepointing it out doesnt make it alright that you grew up rich and others grow up miserably poor and nowhere is this highlighted better than when he and his father visit adelphina a woman from his fathers past in new orleans her home is absolutely devastated by hurricane katrina she has lost two husbands alcoholismdivorce and cancer and a son heroinprison and despite being there from day one in the itzkoff fur business she is not fabulously wealthy and does not send her children to new york city private schools like itzkoff senior had adelphina lives in a poor black neighborhood repeatedly devastated by floods and despite her difficult life she is kind and listens to itzkoff senior rant away like a lunatic and something about that scene and how the author merely acknowledged how a poor black woman who dealt with his grandfathers and fathers vitriolic abuse and took care of them to the point of even being by his grandfathers bedside when he died combined with itzkoff senior whining about Black Community Leaders david does call his dad out on it probably wouldnt have received as much money from his grandfather as his father didit made meso angry just so angry no dude it doesnt make it all okay just because you recognize that youre rich and everyone else is poor it doesnt alright? i know memoirs are selfish affairs but god you raised this whole point on the first few fucking pages by talking about how 'shocked' you were that others didnt live like you did yet on the other hand i really enjoyed how itzkoff and his father slowly grew together after decades of legitimately difficult hard emotional work i found myself being genuinely touched and getting emotional towards the end the wedding chapter felt human and beautiful and i really loved that he got a happy ending and all that entailed i found myself enjoying this book despite it all but i really dont think its a must read it tries way too hard to be this touching narrative when i think itzkoff shouldve just been straightforward it was alright nothing

  6. Koren Koren says:

    I found this to be an extremely self centered look at the author's father's addiction There was no introspection into why his father became an addict or why his father's actions caused him to have the feelings he did It seemed like his father couldnt do anything right and this was most apparent when the two went into counseling together Instead of appreciating his father for doing this he was very critical of everything his father said The blurb on the front cover said the book was funny hopeful sad painful and beautifully told I didnt really see any of this It is a short book or I probably wouldnt have finished it

  7. Harley Harley says:

    This was a hard book to finish It started off strong but felt utterly pointless in the middleI don't know why I finished this book

  8. Abbe Abbe says:

    com Review Dave Itzkoff on Cocaine's Son Whatever the circumstances of our childhoods we all grow up to become adults with uestions about our parents and how they shaped the trajectories of our lives What lessons were our mothers and fathers trying to impart to us? What pitfalls did they want us to avoid and what mistakes of theirs did we end up repeating anyway? And how might we treat our parents differently if we were given a second chance with them?These are all uestions I confronted when I wrote about my relationship with my father except that we were dealt a further challenge for the first 25 years of my life beginning in the 1970s my father was addicted to cocaine He was outwardly a successful man with a wife two children and a thriving business but he struggled privately– and sometimes not so privately –with his drug habit attempting everything from psychotherapy to voluntary institutionalization to cold turkey purges to kick his addiction When he finally got clean I was an almost full grown man desperate to know who my father had been in the time I had missed and as fascinated to discover who he had since become as he was to learn the same about meCocaine’s Son is as much my story as it is my father’s my chronicle of growing up enthralled by a man I could not fully understand of our sometimes painful efforts after his drug problem was conuered to remain in each other’s lives and the unexpected twists and turns that invariably led us back to each other Whether or not your life has been touched by addiction issues I hope this is a story with something to say about your own experience as someone’s child or parent From Itzkoff’s distress and embarrassment at his father’s behavior are tangible in this unflinching portrait of a troubled childhood While the critics generally enjoyed this new addition to the genre a few flaws hampered that enjoyment Some thought that Itzkoff’s story with its rosy upper middle class veneer lacks the edge of similar memoirs while others raised objections to Itzkoff’s singular focus on his father whose larger than life personality eclipses the other characters—including Itzkoff himself He spends a considerable amount of time analyzing his father’s actions in an attempt to understand them and these freuent ruminations according to Entertainment Weekly can be intrusive and redundant When a fellow journalist publishes a book the critics often take it easy on him or her That the reviews were not glowing means there’s less here than meets the eye

  9. Ellen Ellen says:

    Memoirs are understandably intensely personal for the author but they should be relatable as well Unfortunately this book only fell into one of those categories I appreciated that the book was not necessarily constructed chronologically but reflecting on the past as the author experienced things now Our present always colors our recollections and it was easy to see how Itzkoff's childhood with an addicted father made him the man he is today but also how the man he is now affects his view of the past This is hard to say since they are real people but the characters were disagreeable and unsympathetic It seemed almost cruel for Itzkoff the younger to force his father through literally revisiting the people and places that featured largely in his addiction I also wondered throughout why Itkoff's mother who was lauded in the opening chapter and revealed to also have dabbled in drug use and his especially estranged sister were spared the harsh treatmentor really any substantial mentionThrowing me over the edge was Itzkoff's 5 words and poetic turns of phrases that did little to enhance the storyNote this was a Goodreads First Read so anything I say can and will be used against me

  10. Linda C Linda C says:

    I don't know uite what to say about this book I will say that I'm glad that I listened to it as an audio book on my drive to and fro from work and didn't waste time actually reading itWhile David Itzkoff seems like uite a pleasant guy his father does not His father seems altogether unpleasant but that nastiness does not appear to be related to his cocaine use His father did unpleasant things whether he was high or not However Dad never did anything uite unpleasant enough to warrant a 200 page memoir which resulted in numerous recitations of the same dull memories over and over again including Dad's sexual inexperience and Dad's discovery of his own father's glass eye which apparently was uite a big deal in the family Dad was domineering overbearing and refused to take responsibility for any of his shortcomings David Itzkoff's sister was never even named in the book identified only as my sister leaving one to conclude that she didn't want to be associated with such drivelWhile Itzkoff's writing is sharp and witty overall this is a boring book Don't waste your time on this one

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